Advice on Dating a Married Man
Dating a married man has its advantages and disadvantages. It would be better to know a few truths about such a relationship. The first thing is that your man is not going to marry you. From the very beginning you know that there is no long term commitment from either of you. So keep it to that and do not build castles in the air of a walk down the aisle.
Also, how can you be sure that a man who has not been faithful to his wife and has not made his marriage work will make it work for you? So keep it to just that and enjoy your dates and your time together.
Give him enough leeway to lead his own life and if he decides to go on a month-long vacation to the Bahamas with his wife and kids don’t grudge him that. You love him too much to fall in love with him knowing his marital status and just be a little understanding. He too will appreciate your gesture. You can balance your relationship this way.
The flip side is that you become the ‘other woman’ in his life. Not a very savory situation to be in. You may be beautiful, rich, successful, kind and considerate, offer your shoulder to cry on and superior to his wife in every other way, but the bitter truth is that you are the odd one out in this love triangle. In crunch situations, you are the one who may be the worst off and may get a raw deal.
You are anyway losing out on life, so be cautious without being offensive. You don’t want to lose him either.
He may ask you for financial help. It may be a small sum to buy an article of everyday use for which he does not have the money right then, or it may be a larger amount for some investments which he has to make and promises to pay you back later. ‘Promises are made to be broken’. You know it, but in the emotional state you are in, all your discretion has probably ‘gone with the wind’ and you may give in to his demands. It would be better not to let him know of your true financial status.
If he does know about it and you have no chance of hiding your assets, then in such situations put your foot down and say a firm ‘No’. This way, you will also know whether he is really interested in you or only in your money. If however, you decide to part with the money, be mentally prepared that you may not get it back.
Anyway, honey, enjoy while the going’s good and don’t cry when times are bad.
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