Dating Advice
Dating advice is available in plenty, because like all other advice it is almost free. The giver of the advice also will not own up to his/her fault or mistake if you stumble and fall or face rough weather going by his/her advice.
What then, do you do?
Make your own rules.
Yes, that’s right. Because no matter how secure and successful the advisor has been in his/her relationships, there is no fool-proof guide to dating. You can’t read a book named something like ‘Dating and keeping guys/gals’ and move around confidently, thinking you are the ultimate lover-boy or ‘femme-fatale’. Do you honestly think that dating is as similar to say, computer hacking? You may get plenty of books with names sounding like ‘The layman’s guide to ethical hacking’ and also be better off following their advice.
I personally don’t know if books by the fore-mentioned names are available and no offence intended to the authors, if books with such titles exist. But, whereas you can go by the advice on computer hacking, going by advice on matters very close to the heart is at best childish.
For one, dating advice can’t be transcontinental. What may be true for an American won’t hold good for a European or a Japanese. A book on nanotechnology by an American author could be useful reading for an American, a European or an Asian. But he same doesn’t go for dating advice. Cultures are different and people’s perspectives differ too. What may be permitted and acceptable in one culture may be taboo and prohibited in another.
I too could write a book on dating and make a neat fortune. But that’s not my style.
I do not want to be overly skeptical and forbid you from reading such books, either. All I say is that if you do read such ‘Dating Advice’ books; take such advice on an individual basis. You could be an American reading a book on ‘dating advice’ written by an American, but what went off well with him need not suit you. He may have had a girlfriend named Susan and all his advice may be based on his experiences with her. Well, your girlfriend isn’t the same “Susan” and she may have a totally different personality, perspective and tastes.
Get my point.
Make your own rules.
After saying all this, I do not profess to offer any advice. How can I?
So do not worry too much about dating. First of all try to be good as a ‘person’. Just be your own normal self. That is what any woman will like. After all who likes pretences and those having a false front? Honesty is the best policy even when it comes to romance and dating. Don’t try to impress her with expensive gifts you can’t afford and trifles if they don’t show you care. A lady who is just interested in the exotic car you drive isn’t worth knowing anyway, and one who can’t appreciate the spirit behind a gift is not worth dating either. That goes for ladies too.
A guy who falls for you just because you are an heiress to a large fortune isn’t worth dating and someone who doesn’t appreciate your professional accomplishments isn’t worth dating either. So, do just that. See the heart. And make your own ‘Dating Advice’ rules.
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